When there is worry, there is fear involved.
If you experience fear, the mind is not calm.
Solutions to personal and global problems appear when the mind is calm.
Overthinking a problem, is the problem.
It is always based on fear and blocks the ability to receiving creative solutions.
The mind thinks it is finding solutions, but in reality it creates more worry,
which leads to new worries and more stress.
This is the pattern of the worrying mind.
Meditation is a tool
To calm the mind and to sooth the worries,
To feel the connection in all of existence.
When we feel connected, there is less fear.
To be connected means that there is a form of love present.
When we are in the energy of love, fear and therefore worry can not exist.
So again: meditation is just a tool. It is not the goal.
There is no guarantee that when you do meditate, you will be in a 24/7 zen zone.
It does help though to become a master of the mind.
It helps to detach and to give a another direction to the ongoing thoughts.
Meditation helps you to become aware and with this awareness you can act in more efficient and effective ways.
Meditation is not a shortcut for the lessons we have to learn. Meditation is not the solution for the problems in our life. It is not the solution for inner/world peace.
It is just a tool to become more aware of the challenges we learn in life.
Continue reading Creating a calm mind to find creative solutions within
Everyday is a Holy day. Or at least that is what everyday could be if you choose to put the magic in it. The choice is yours. If you decide to make today special, then so it will be.
Let’s be honest, the holiday seasons do have special magical powers, especially the ones in the winter. It is not special though because all of the stories we tell. Yes, the stories are part of the holiday experience. Stories about hope and peace, do contribute to this special feeling that we all together create. Stories of victory, of harmony and new beginnings. Holy days are special because, we humans, give special powers to those days.
We put our best happy face on
We smile more
We do more kind things for one another
We take care of those who have less
We bless each other
We give presents to each other
We have empathy for the suffering of another
We sing songs of hope
We dress into our most beautiful clothes
We eat delicious prepared meals
We put on lights everywhere
We come together for a good time
We are grateful for what we have. And yes…. The magic works. All our effort influences our overall feeling. It influences our moods for the better and therefore the holidays are holydays. If nobody would make an effort, there would be nothing holy about the holidays. If we would not give meaning, there would be nothing special about the holidays. Continue reading Happy Holy days!
Who is it that decides what perfect is?
Who are you to judge that something is not perfect?
The irony of perfection is that it is a concept,
Some ‘thing’ that many strive for and yet nobody knows exactly what it is.
Perfection is an image, It is an abstract concept
Not one definition of perfection is the same, because one simple reason.
Perfection is subjective.
Perfection is an opinion.
Perfection is not a fact.
It is quite hard to satisfy an opinion. One day you like blue and the next day you might like red. So what will it be?
Opinions are changeable like the dutch weather and therefore not very reliable. Continue reading The irony of perfection
Last couple of years I’ve been hearing from people that i’m weird, odd, different, unusual, That they can’t put me in any box, that they can not label me with any label. It’s funny, because in the past I used to feel this way as well. Though I think I always could cover it up very well. In a way I must be a great actor, because I could fit into any group. I could be what the other wanted me to be. That is a superpower. But it is not so beneficial when it controls you, or better said: when you allow others to control you.
I always thought I had a sense of who I was, until I started this path of self transformation. It was my false sense of self that kept confirming that it knew itself. Where actually the real self is nothing like it. When you are just yourself, you don’t have to go looking for yourself anymore.
But I have stripped myself partly off my former identity. The core of who I am, is set in stone. It is unchangeable. But all that I was not, the false self, crumbled away. I had to confront myself. See myself ‘naked’. Over and over again. Because no, the process is not done and definitely not finished. But slowly, slowly, I get a real sense of what it is to be me. Some days better than others. And in one situation it is more clear then in another. It’s hard, It’s though, It’s painful, but oh God. There is nothing more satisfying to see yourself, as you really are. To see yourself growing into a more loving human being. To care less about what others might think of you and being less sensitive to their projections and opinions. Continue reading Be different, Be brave, Be your self
I do find it a challenge to talk about who I am with others. I do struggle to find ways to express the unusual things that happen in my life. Often I receive thoughts, ideas and realisations about things I could do to make this world a little bit more beautiful. Sometimes new ideas pop up in my head about creating pieces of art. I receive many suggestions, mostly in an instant, about life itself and about human behaviour. I see from some things why they are functioning in the they function. Often when I talk to people I just know the solution to their problems. I discovered that I am a healer too. With for example a reiki treatment I can channel energies that are healing for body, mind and emotion. But as I already mentioned. I find it difficult to talk about it. and to express these things. So usually I shut my mouth. Continue reading So… you write all these texts and publish them for your fun, but who are you men?
Listen to your inner guidance,
because that is your only truth
There is no other truth that can lead to your happiness, your freedom and your path.
Others can open new perceptions, others are there to show you what you can’t see
but they are never more true than your inner guide.
Who is it that provides you with answers?
It is you, in another form
How reliable is this guidance?
It is as reliable as you trust yourself in human form Continue reading Inner guidance
A bee is, whilst being
just bee-ing around
collecting nectar, because this is what he knows
this is how he is programmed
hopping from flower to flower
just being himself
living it’s humble life as a bee
all in service of his queen
During his life
the bee produces honey
not because he decided to do so,
But because that is the byproduct of his being
By taking care of the offspring of his queen
this delicious and sweet bee product is made Continue reading Be like the bee and produce honey
Facebook and Instagram are two wonderful tools to show the world what you like and through what lens you see the world. They are amazing tools to be up to date about the latest trends, hypes and news and it’s also a convenient way to stay in touch with people.
Recently I got tipped about this new app called Meetup
that got me curious. Meetup is an app other than FB or Insta. Instead of showing others what you like or what you are doing, you can actually invite them into your world,Into your hobby, or interest and do it together with them. I’ve found out that it is a beautiful way to connect with people from all different kind of backgrounds. There are so many things you can join. F.E. There are book clubs, movie clubs, Sunday morning breakfast clubs, dancing events, sharing circles, board game meetings. You name it and it’s probably there.
Continue reading Who wants to Meetup?
Have you ever wondered why people become so happy from funky and ecstatic music?
When we hear music we tend to start moving. We move on the beat or the melody and it makes us feel a certain way. Whenever we feel melancholic, sad music can do wonders to deepen the sad feeling. Until we had enough of the sadness and turn the music off. Usually our mood improves after 😉 On weddings or on funerals, the music is one of the most important ingredients for an successful event. On a party the DJ is the center of attention and a good DJ can alter the mood of the whole party. Many times after a concert we a joyful and free feeling. As if we are children again for a moment.
As you can see, music has a great influence on our well-being. It influences us on many emotional and mental levels. Also on a physical and energetic level it has a big influence on us. Music has the ability to change our moods. It can uplift us, it can bring us down, through music we can get in trance. Music can encourage us and it can motivate us to move forward or to dance. Simply said music has the ability to change our state of mind. It is therefore a wonderful tool to alter our reality into happy and joyful situations, without the use of any substance. Continue reading Sound Healing Session
Pain is something we all feel and it is very real. Sometimes pain can be overwhelming. I’m not speaking about physical pain, but more the emotional/spiritual pain. As a human I find it a challenge to be open about my emotions. I find it a challenge to talk about the kind of pain i’m experiencing. I don’t always get the feeling that there is a place for emotions in our society. From a young age we were taught that we are supposed to stand tall and fight against our emotions. If you show them you are labeled as weak or soft, or you have ‘lost control’. When you do show your emotions in public, people think something horrible happened to you, because it is an exception to see someone expressing his or her emotions outside on the street. As a guy it is even more of a challenge, because the main idea about a man is that he needs to be a warrior, a fighter. It is this twisted concept that causes a big part of my pain as well. Continue reading Pain and human emotions