When there is worry, there is fear involved.
If you experience fear, the mind is not calm.
Solutions to personal and global problems appear when the mind is calm.
Overthinking a problem, is the problem.
It is always based on fear and blocks the ability to receiving creative solutions.
The mind thinks it is finding solutions, but in reality it creates more worry,
which leads to new worries and more stress.
This is the pattern of the worrying mind.
Meditation is a tool
To calm the mind and to sooth the worries,
To feel the connection in all of existence.
When we feel connected, there is less fear.
To be connected means that there is a form of love present.
When we are in the energy of love, fear and therefore worry can not exist.
So again: meditation is just a tool. It is not the goal.
There is no guarantee that when you do meditate, you will be in a 24/7 zen zone.
It does help though to become a master of the mind.
It helps to detach and to give a another direction to the ongoing thoughts.
Meditation helps you to become aware and with this awareness you can act in more efficient and effective ways.
Meditation is not a shortcut for the lessons we have to learn. Meditation is not the solution for the problems in our life. It is not the solution for inner/world peace.
It is just a tool to become more aware of the challenges we learn in life.
Continue reading Creating a calm mind to find creative solutions within
Who is it that decides what perfect is?
Who are you to judge that something is not perfect?
The irony of perfection is that it is a concept,
Some ‘thing’ that many strive for and yet nobody knows exactly what it is.
Perfection is an image, It is an abstract concept
Not one definition of perfection is the same, because one simple reason.
Perfection is subjective.
Perfection is an opinion.
Perfection is not a fact.
It is quite hard to satisfy an opinion. One day you like blue and the next day you might like red. So what will it be?
Opinions are changeable like the dutch weather and therefore not very reliable. Continue reading The irony of perfection
Facebook and Instagram are two wonderful tools to show the world what you like and through what lens you see the world. They are amazing tools to be up to date about the latest trends, hypes and news and it’s also a convenient way to stay in touch with people.
Recently I got tipped about this new app called Meetup
that got me curious. Meetup is an app other than FB or Insta. Instead of showing others what you like or what you are doing, you can actually invite them into your world,Into your hobby, or interest and do it together with them. I’ve found out that it is a beautiful way to connect with people from all different kind of backgrounds. There are so many things you can join. F.E. There are book clubs, movie clubs, Sunday morning breakfast clubs, dancing events, sharing circles, board game meetings. You name it and it’s probably there.
Continue reading Who wants to Meetup?
Have you ever wondered why people become so happy from funky and ecstatic music?
When we hear music we tend to start moving. We move on the beat or the melody and it makes us feel a certain way. Whenever we feel melancholic, sad music can do wonders to deepen the sad feeling. Until we had enough of the sadness and turn the music off. Usually our mood improves after 😉 On weddings or on funerals, the music is one of the most important ingredients for an successful event. On a party the DJ is the center of attention and a good DJ can alter the mood of the whole party. Many times after a concert we a joyful and free feeling. As if we are children again for a moment.
As you can see, music has a great influence on our well-being. It influences us on many emotional and mental levels. Also on a physical and energetic level it has a big influence on us. Music has the ability to change our moods. It can uplift us, it can bring us down, through music we can get in trance. Music can encourage us and it can motivate us to move forward or to dance. Simply said music has the ability to change our state of mind. It is therefore a wonderful tool to alter our reality into happy and joyful situations, without the use of any substance. Continue reading Sound Healing Session
The idea that spirituality is only for a select group of people stems from very old ideas about who was able to serve god. These ideas are still imprinted into our consciousness. When we have a religious or spiritual problem we go to our priest, rabbi, imam, guru, shaman, psychologist, for a solution. You tell them your story and you expect that they will come with an suitable answer. This is what they have studied for. It is their job.
The middleman is supposed to be the translator, the communicator between you and the divine. And it is true. Some people are better in making the connection than others. Some people have this gift, while others have many other gifts. Thank god these people are here to help others. Thank god these humans exist and offer their help so that the symbolical, universal language becomes understandable in human language. When spirit communicates with us, it could be through metaphors, symbols and dreams, but also through thoughts, feelings and visions (and many many other ways). When you really need to receive a message, you will receive it through the channel that suits you most. Eventually you will understand the message. Continue reading You are more special than you think!
There was a time where I felt myself literally being the ball of the ping pong game. One moment I was ping and the next moment I was pong. It was a difficult time where I was exploring my Self. It was a time where I learned the extremes of this dual world slapping me from one side to the other. During those ping pong times I was much frustrated, not knowing how to handle myself. I could not understand what was going on and why all of this happened to me. I was caught up in a game and I didn’t know the rules.
When I look back on those days I can see the valuable lessons I had to learn. One of them is that we live in a game with the core rule of duality. I had to experience that everything exists in twofold. One extreme on one side and another extreme on the other side of the scale. It seems that they can never come together in the game And one cannot exist without the other. Eventually it is and it isn’t supposed to come together.
Continue reading The game of duality
Every single day I learn more about myself and about the world around me. It is not by surprise that I learn new things. I asked for it. For many years. I wanted to know who I was and what the purpose of me being here on earth is. Over time, I got some puzzle pieces thrown at me from my spirit team (you have a team too!! Go talk to them). There are a couple reasons why they only give pieces of the puzzle. 1) It is to overwhelming to get all the information at once and 2) There is no fun left to live for when you know everything.
A way for me to cope with my social anxiety is to do completely the opposite of what someone with social anxiety would normally do. Instead of hiding, I’m opening up. It is part of my learning experience in this Universe(ity). By opening up myself, there is not much I can hide for others. I can not hide behind shame, guilt, addictions, or fears. I share parts of myself as much as I can in the moment and in return I learn to overcome my fears and everything that stands in my way to feel freedom. It is a great deal! Continue reading The gift of opening up